Is pain learnt?
Is it a phenomenon learnt by members of this society? Do children learn this etiquette so they will use it in a systematic way in their future relationships ?.
The kids have learnt to relieve the pain of responsibilities, obligations and things that do not appeal: it’s Monday, it’s school – my tummy hurts. I also had a pain last week when I did not want to pick up my toys… Does this translate to adulthood when rationality has invaded our brains? Or worse, do we feel the pain when we are in disaccord with some aspect of our lives?
Perhaps we should review these concepts before discussing our injuries. It might be interesting to look at situations naturally related to suffering and analyse closely whether the amount of pain we feel corresponds to actual physical damage, to the abuse to which our bodies are subjected, to the frantic pace which we make ourselves follow in following the second hand on our watches…Maybe we should learn to unlearn, and greeting our neighbours should go back to the classic: “It’s been a good evening, hasn’t it?”.